we did

… we finally made it down the aisle, or in our case down the sidewalk toward the gazebo.

The reception went better than I had planned. No fights, no loud words. Being legally drunk for 80 percent of the day didn’t hurt matters any. Most of the food didn’t go to waste, more than half of the keg was consumed, and Porky the Slaughtered Pig was delicious.

I’m by NO means an expert on anything let alone married life, but from what I’ve felt so far… it’s not all too different from living together in sin.

on a boat

we made it to the boat despite some last minute scares. We quickly adapted to the cruise lifestyle, lounging around and drinking drinking DRINKING! The ports of call were as I imagined they’d be. Aside from Hemingway’s house and some assorted stops here and there, Key West seems like one big happy hour, by 2 o’clock we were suffering from heat exhaustion so beer was the last thing on our minds.

Cozumel was the second stop on the drunk americas tour. I felt like i was in the middle of George Lopez’s comedy act, I couldn’t help but think of him while we were walking through the plazas “My fren my fren, looka mira, you like belts?” The pressure was on for the vendors because our boat was the first one that had docked at the port in 40 days, the Governor of the region was there and so were the local media. Cozumel was definitely worth while, we took an educational tour/Hiking tour through the Mexican desert in San Gervasio,Cozumel learning about Mayan culture. Apparently honeymooners have been making pilgrimages to Cozumel since Mayan times, according to our guide the site at San Gervasio was the stop all newlyweds made in order to pay respect to the fertility gods.

Our third stop was Belize City in Belize, like Cozumel we made another educational tour. We toured another Mayan site and we really enjoyed ourselves. What we learned (aside from the obvious educational stuff) chubby people shouldn’t hike especially in a tropical climate.

Meanwhile, ON THE BOAT! we ate our weight in steaks,lobster, chicken and deserts.

And back on land I developed an inner ear infection when I got back, not to fun when the room spinning but your sober.

Next Obstacle, finding and moving into a new house

roundup

I can’t think of a catchy title, so that’ll have to do for now. I’m going to be married in less than a week and I won’t be writing on here for the rest of May so I thought I’d do a “Best Of” or all I’ve learned type of list here

I’VE learned

In single life…

… it’s always darkest before the dawn.. sounds horribly cliche but it actually holds alot of water. When we are down and out, want to give up and jump into that volcano we don’t actually see the future possibilities, the future parties, dates, loves, all around good times and bad times (that make us appreciative) ahead.

… ..it doesn’t matter how toys you collect… it truly doesn’t matter because I ended up buying alot of them back on ebay, but in retrospect you have to remember that possessions don’t last forever

…a life together..

…. pick your battles… doing an extra menial task sounds annoying but if it saves me from getting beheaded? so be it, it actually sounds like I’m complaining too much there, I actually don’t mind doing those so called menial tasks, when everything is put into perspective, I do those things because I love her….

LISTENING is KEY!!! … there are a few things that you’re allowed to forget, at the risk of getting in trouble I won’t mention any right now, but you really do want to keep open ears!! this fact goes hand in hand with another good basic fact, Silence is Golden! sometimes we have to shut up in order to hear what other people are saying, all the more important when the other peson is the love of your life.

…..if I think of more I’ll add through comments

Viva Cuba Libre!!!

2-19-08, this has definitely been a very emotional day for many cubans and cuban-americans alike.  The main headline of the day, Fidel Castro steps down from the Cuban presidency (DICTATORSHIP). It seems like a stretch to think that Fidel or his brother WON’T continue their brand of tyranny. There are still many politcal prisoners languishing in cuban jails. There are still many  publications and tv and radio shows in cuba that aren’t allowed to tell the truth or give their own opinion on the government. Many have died in an adopted homeland dreaming of the day that they could return. Many have suffered, many have risked their lives for a chance at freedom.  It does offer atleast a bit of hope, Tyranny will ultimately fail, people will reclaim what is rightfully theres.

I’m not really good at spontaneity

one thing you really cannot discount on Valentines Day. EVERY SINGLE RESTAURANT will have a HUGE WAIT. So as I stated in a previous post my intention was to “do italian”. As soon as my beloved got home that plan was modified to Red Lobster. Well after a slow start we finally made it to a very busy Red Lobster (which I wasn’t going to wait 75 minutes for). 2nd choice was Olive Garden, upon our arrival my love informed me that SHE didnt want to wait their 70 minute wait. Soooo whats a hungry man to do?

Well we did what I said we wouldn’t do, we found ourselves at Rancho Chico, it’s a bit better than Dos Amigos and it’s more authentic. Dos Amigos is more schticky and really doesnt have hispanics working there (only in kitchen positions)  I also learned a very important lesson, when eating mexican, eat in moderation. We didnt have gastronimical accidents this time around

my answer to “something like life”

most of you might agree, the majority of you wont agree..

my life, or at-least the partial focus of it right now is different than it used to be 15, 10 or 5 years ago. The weather part (coldness and such) is explainable by the long distance move. Every other part of it though… I just think its different because I’m in a relationship, thats not a negative thing, far from it. But all the things, all the aspects of stuff that I noticed that were different were things that I did alone, singularly. So life isn’t bad, change is good. Life will change when we open up and let go, it can be subtle or it can be blunt. Love is good, it bit me on the ass but love is good